There was a recent article in the Deseret News that really infuriated me. I have talked before about why I call myself That Guy with the Hair. I usually wear my hair buzzed on the sides and spiky on top. That has been my look for most of my adult life.
Here is an example of what I am talking about with my hair.
Well, this coming weekend is General Conference for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, aka. The Mormons. In the Deseret News (the Mormon Church's newspaper) was this article about Utah County men preparing to sing at the conference.
This is the most infuriating part for me.
Many of them have also lost head and all facial hair, and will be required to lose jewelry and boldly colored or patterned ties as well in exchange for something darker and more subtle.
No music, no backpacks, no phones, iPods or carry-ons, no color in your socks, fresh haircuts and no cologne or spiky hair.
“And we’re glad to do it,” says Joel Baldwin of the Pleasant Grove Utah Timpanogos Stake. “Following a dress and grooming standard set for this choir means that the congregation can focus on the intent of the songs we sing without distraction.”
No spiky hair. That is me. The article goes on to describe men with beards that are not welcome along with anyone with a bad tie or socks with color in them. Everyone needs to look the same with boring haircuts, dark conservative suits, white shirts, and boring, drab ties.
Can there be a more blatant display of the types of people that are not welcome in this church? I have spiky hair; therefore, I am not welcome in this church. I wear earrings sometimes, another strike against me. I have horrible, filthy tattoos; you might as well send me straight to hell right now.
The freedom of expression is not welcome in the Mormon Church. I love people that express themselves. The punk with the purple mohawk. The girl with the short skirt and torn tights. The guy with too many tattoos and piercings. The businesswoman in her dress suit. There are many more examples, but you get the idea. We were not meant to all look like cookie cutter copies of Mormon missionaries.
Why will I never return to this church? The type of person that I am along with others that are like me are not welcome there. I do not fit the boring mold of a man that they require. In fact, Jesus Christ himself would not be welcome in this choir to sing to his own "prophet." His appearance does not fit the standards of this church.